What does a coach helps you for and why the coaching business is becoming more and more successful?
In this wild, selfish and aggressive century, you can notice that people are turning to themselves with a really quick pace. If you read the best sellers books of the last years, most of them belong to the field of self -development, self- esteem, emotional intelligence, personal growth and other kinds related to the improvement of ourselves.
Well, there may be a lot of reasons that go from the digital evolution of the whole world to the sophistication of the human needs in developed countries with a high standard of living. Our life expectations are much more elevated if we compare them to the past, the rhythm of life is very strenuous, the interactions between people are getting far apart, and everyone is focusing mainly in that “small and little world” that begins with itself and can spread at a maximum to his core family.
Also the digital era has revolutionized the access people have to follow their hobbies, goals and dreams. If I have a little more spare time, why would I spent it talking to other people when I can have access to a gallery in a French or Italian museum if my hobby is art, or participate in a business conference for free if I am planning to start a business, or listen to a Ted Talk speech if I dream to become a politician and the list goes on and on.
Another contributor can be increased life expectancy and the increased attention to a healthy lifestyle which includes more sports, healthy eating and dieting, detox activities etc. There were not the goals of our ancestors and they require time, energy and a lot of dedication if we want to succeed. I don’t know you but as I am writing this, I can already feel some pressure and stress from all the factors mentioned above.
This is where coaching enters in. If i am in a good financial position, with a lot of goals and dreams in my mind which I postpone month after month and year after year because my intensive life doesn’t let me to sit quiet and think about action plans to reach that goal, I can hire a coach with whom I can talk freely and who can help me reach the goal Coaching helps anyone who is feeling overwhelmed with too many things to do and tasks to accomplish, trying to discover the hidden potential in them that triggers and incentivizes behaviors for change.
Coaching is based in the answers that come from US to US, nor from others and not from outside.
People who coach belief that anyone has all answers of their problems within themselves and the coach helps you identify them with different questions, challenges, discoveries etc. Coaches doesn’t give you answers to your problems, they help you give your answers to your problems. If the coach gives any advice, recommendation or fixed answer to your problem, he is just trying to give a solution to the problem perceived from his point of view. At that stage, the problem is not yours anymore, it is his, and the answer would not be the answer to your problem, but to your problem perceived by the Coach as his problem.
The selfish attitude humans are demonstrating in our days decreases the time spent with our family and friend, talking and sharing our problems. I don’t know if you have noticed that people doesn’t listen anymore to each other like they used to do in the past. Most of us don’t have time, energy and desire to listen to other’s problems. As a consequence, people feel lonely and not understood.
This is again when coaching enters in.
Why they feel good when they hire a coach? Because they feel listened and understood not judgmentally. They can talk to someone who considers the confidentiality of his problems like the Hippocrates Swear. They feel safe, discover more and more about themselves and find the right energy to accomplish goals and reach to their dreams.
Recent statistics according to The Institute of Coaching show that 80% of people who receive coaching report increased self-confidence and over 70% benefit from improved work performance, relationships and more effective communication skills. Of course coaching doesn’t create miracles, but insures increased performance in the area of your life where you need more improvement. (for anyone interested please search the web for the exercise of “Wheel of life”).
Everyone is different, and so are our problems, doubts, insecurities, beliefs, goals and dreams. The Coach is there to make you go back to yourself, to discover your inner self in order to live a fulfilled life from your unique values and point of view.
That is a promise if you give to Coaching the benefit of doubt!
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